What to expect when dating a rich man
So why did I not run away as soon as I found out he was an egotistical maniac? Besides, he was a welcome relief from all the wimpy new men I had been dating.
I was sick of being asked what I wanted to do, of being the one who made all the decisions. Like the alpha male in a wolf pack who walks with head and tail erect, Mr Rich would enter a room with such confidence your heart skipped a beat.
Every time I started to talk about something I thought was vaguely interesting, all I could see was his permatanned neck as he looked around the room. For a start, they are not only greedy - what else could motivate them to make more money than they could spend in a lifetime - they are also mean. There was also something about a threatening legal letter from Mc Cartney's lawyers accusing Heather of taking three bottles of cleaning fluid from his kitchen. I mean, we are talking about a man who is not rich in any normal sense, but so catastrophically loaded that he could probably buy the cleaning company several times over. For a start, Macca and my multi-millionaire are that rare bread; the self-made man.
I wanted to fling a Gina mule in his face - the guy was working, for God's sake. 'Kate could you leave a tip,' he suddenly said, rummaging in his pockets, 'I've left my money in the car.' What, all £3billion, I thought, as I brought out the only fiver I had left and plonked it onto the squishy chocolate mousse. Unlike the landowner rich who are so blasÈ about money, the self-made man often comes from a poorer background.
The rich guy subconsciously sees himself as valuable of his money. What does he do the next time he meets a quality woman? More talk of his money, his status, and his accomplishments. But even if not a direct money exchange, sure, showboating will attract some women.
It’s never the money itself that’s damaging anybody’s intimate life. But here’s the thing: guys with money regularly make the mistake of implicitly placing their value upon their wealth. And because he doesn’t understand attraction and women, he incorrectly sees only one logical course of action. Of course, his money leads to some “relationships.” There’s the elephant in the room that includes prostitution, “sugar daddy” relationships, and the like.
This was the catch - the relationship was on his terms.
Given that he spent a huge chunk of his time jetting around the globe, I had to be on call.
Think of all the new contacts he had made, and how he could show off his impressive collection of 20th-century art - I counted at least six Cy Twomblys that evening, a couple of Picassos and if I am not mistaken there was even a Rauschenberg in the loo - subtext: I am so rich I don't care where I put my paintings. Super-mates, whether the stick thin model or rich man, are not accessible to all, which is why when one of them invites you to dinner, you feel as if you are being allowed into a special club. I used to spend whole weekends watching the entire Doris Day collection in his sitting room, which was three times the size of my entire flat.
I remember once blowing out my oldest friend because Mr Rich called at the last minute and ordered me to come for a latenight supper. After I had nearly broken my neck running for a taxi, he arrived two hours late. He neither apologised nor said he would make it up to me, just waved an imperious hand and summoned the wine waiter.
When he called the following morning, I simply told him I had found someone else, and went in search of a kindly beta male.
HE WAS so used to feeling superior that he treated me like another person in his employ.
His superior attitude kicked into my submissive side and I found myself troweling on make-up at 11pm, because he had just arrived from New York and wanted to see me.
She heard more about his external accomplishments than anything else. Because here’s the secret: women are attracted to a man based on how he makes her feel, far more than they are to how much he’s worth. But even then, a pretty woman knows how to find a good time. This way, when she figures it out on her own, she’s already built an emotional connection.